We don’t like conflict. That is normal. But life will inevitably have lots of conflict in it. So what do we do about it?

Sorry to break it to you, but avoiding conflict just makes the current version of you more comfortable, and makes the future version of you really unhappy. Because avoiding the conflict doesn’t make it go away, it just makes you deal with it later, when it has gotten worse.

So instead of thinking about what the conflict is, think of what you want the positive outcome to be, and make the conversation about that. Don’t focus on the current negative, make the focus on the future positive.

The future you will thank you.