Why does it feel good to criticize others?  We’ve all done it.  We say something critical of someone else, whether it’s true or not, and for a moment it actually makes us feel kind of good.

By criticizing others, we are trying to not look at ourselves.  Frequently, the things that we are most critical of in others are the things that we know are flaws in ourselves.  And by pointing out someone else’s failings, we can pretend for a moment that we are better than them.  We feel powerful.

But the problem is, that good feeling doesn’t last, because is isn’t real.  We still know what our own flaws are, and temporarily feeding out ego by pointing out others’ flaws only gives a temporary benefit.  Do you know what actually makes you feel good, in a real and lasting way?  When you compliment someone else.

So the next time you find yourself thinking a critical thought about someone, stop for a moment and think about yourself.  Are you actually criticizing a flaw in yourself?  Now, instead of saying the critical thing, find something positive about that person, and say it to them instead.  You’ll feel better, and so will they.