You can’t use reason to get out of this one.  Whatever “this one” is, your emotions win the battle.  I like to think of us as having two minds; an emotional mind and a rational mind.  We all think of things in two ways; from a purely emotional point of view, as well as a logical, reasoned point of view.  We think of all the good, rational reasons that we should feel a certain way, and then we frequently do the exact opposite.

In the battle of your rational mind versus your emotional mind, emotions win.  Think of it this way.  Think of one thing that you are afraid of; spiders, the dark, heights, asking someone on a date.  When you think about it logically, it doesn’t really make sense to be afraid.  Most spiders are harmless, the only real danger in the dark is that you’ll stub your toe, there isn’t any real danger of looking out the 24th floor window, and the worst that happens when you ask someone out is that they say no.  So now you’re not afraid any more, right?  Of course you are, because fear is an emotional response, and emotions win over logic.

So is there a solution?  Maybe yes, maybe no.  The best way to re-shape emotions is through conditioning; you face your fear, so you’re no longer afraid.  I’ve been afraid of water my whole life.  I took a scuba diving course, I practiced until I could swim a mile, and I’m still somewhat uncomfortable in water.  But, now I can swim across the lake and not be afraid.  I’m not going to promise you that it will always work, but I do believe that facing your fears is nearly always a better option than hiding from them and continuing to be afraid.  At least if you face them, you can tell yourself that you really tried.

Sometimes you’re just going to have to tell your emotional mind that while you value its opinion, you’re going to do something else this time.  You force your rational mind to call the shots for a little while.  This is not an easy thing to do, but as usual, the harder choice is the right choice.

Accept that your emotions have value, but they can also hold you back.  Sometimes you have to rely on some logic and reason to push your way through and get what you want.  Try it the next time you feel your fear holding you back from something.  I think you’ll be surprised at how strong you can be.