I was listening to an interview with Dr. Susan David, who wrote the book Emotional Agility . She talked about “have to” goals versus “want to” goals.

If you “have to” lose 20 pounds, you’re not likely to succeed. If you “want to” lose 20 pounds, that’s a lot more motivating.

There are things in life that you “have to” do. But lots of the goals that we set for ourselves are things that we want, but we punish ourselves by feeling that we “have to” do them.

If you know your why; if you truly know why you want something, then it’s a “want to” goal, which is much more attainable.