Sometimes people ask us for advice. Sometimes we just see that they could use some guidance. Before you offer your help, think twice.

Most people don’t actually want help. Most people want to keep doing exactly what they’re doing and get different results. They want to keep eating what they want but lose weight. They want to keep dating the same type of person but have the relationship be good.

So before you offer advice to anyone, really think about whether they are actually wanting to make a change in their life, and you can help them.

If they aren’t ready to do things differently, then save your breath.