All touching should be intended to feel good to both people in a relationship. This covers all touching; from holding hands to sex.

A lot of times, one person in a relationship gets their physical needs taken care of, but the other person does not. We’ve all seen the couple where one of them grabs the other one’s arm, or puts their arm around them in a possessive manner, not in a way that is designed to make their partner feel good.

And when it comes to sex, this is even more difficult for women than for men. It’s a lot easier for a man to feel satisfied with sexual activity, which means that for a woman to feel satisfied, it’s going to take some effort from the guy.

You are allowed to ask your partner to give you what you need. You are allowed to have your needs taken care of. You don’t need to allow anyone to do anything to your body that is not designed to make you feel good.

There is no doubt that these conversations can be difficult. But as with most things in life, the harder choice is right choice.

You can say no to the things you don’t want, and you can ask for the things that you do want. And if you’re with the right person, then that person will respect what you are asking for. If they don’t respect your needs, find someone who will.